I’ve written before about how I’m convinced I have ADHD. (I’d prefer IFL language but unsure what that is? “I’m an ADHDer”?)
Anyhow, a strong part of this for me is Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. This is when a criticism or perceived criticism induces intense feeling of panic, hurt and actual physical pain for me. This includes self-criticism and also situations involving conflict. For others, criticisms of this nature may seem trivial. They might even be seen as “constructive”. But for me they are utterly destructive. And the effects can last for days.
This article about it resonated strongly with me.
So, when I get what I perceive as a negative comment on my blog, or the Facebook page associated with it, even if it’s someone just pointing out a typo (though I’m getting better at not sweating those), then I can be sent into a negative tailspin that often ends with me contemplating deleting my whole blog.
So, please, if you’re going to leave a comment on one of my posts, ask yourself:
Is this helpful?
Is this kind?
Could this be perceived as rejection by someone with RSD?
Yes, I get it. I don’t live in a bubble. And if I write something harmful to others, I need to be called out on it. Strangely I can handle that kind of criticism better. But unless I have actively harmed you, could you please leave your criticisms and judgements to yourself?